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New Year Déjà Vu

Begin resolutions with a reality check.

January 5, 2012
Debra Lordan - Editor/General Manager , The Maui Weekly

Something miraculous occurred at midnight on Dec. 31, 2011. The beginning of a New Year wipes the slate clean of mistakes, misadventures and misdeeds for an opportunity to reroute our direction in life, if we so desire.

The birth of the New Year gives each of us fresh footing on the road of good intentions, offering the promise of better health, more happiness, increased wisdom and hopefully, fewer blunders.

Three-hundred and sixty-four days of the year, most of us are so busy doing what we have to do, to take our shoulder from the grindstone long enough to assess the whole enchilada we call our lives. Most of us set aside only this one day a year to take it all in, assess the big picture and then vow in this new year, via our resolutions, to "be a better person" in every way imaginable.

But, as it happens time and time again, only a few days into the New Year, we squander our start very early on. Our sparkling hopes and idealism may have already begun to tarnish as our unrealistic aspirations fade with testing over time.

Everyone procrastinates and makes mistakes, because it's all just part of learning, living and being human. And all of us will no doubt fail in some of what we set out to do.

Fortunately, we know that failure is not the end. For the person who is determined to learn from it, failure is the beginning. What matters most is a willingness to make mid-course corrections at any time of the year.

But if I know myself at all, I predict that I will make plenty of mistakes, but not that many original blunders this year. Just like last year and the years before, I'm prone to just dusting off last year's booboos and simply and curiously repeating them in some incarnation in the next. Been there, done that, but doing it again.

Yes, it's good to do some soul-searching and own up to the error of our ways, but it's also important to remember not to recycle unwanted behaviors into the New Year.

What is unhealthy is thinking you have not made any errors (which is itself a mistake). If we say there is no room for self-improvement, we deceive ourselves.

So, if we can't be mistake-free, we can at least resolve to make some new, creative ones.

I think that's a realistic resolution.



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